If you haven’t seen my social media for the past week, you might have missed my posts from Israel, and the love I shared for not only the trip, but the fellow influencers (ok, I hate that word) on the trip. I was really nervous before going because everyone else on the trip had a much bigger social following than me…also they were much fitter than me. I was comparing their successes, bodies and accomplishments to my own.
I was nervous, embarrassed and worried that I wouldn’t fit in.
Turns out, I couldn’t have been more wrong and the group actually made the trip so amazing. Rather than making me feel out of place, they all shared words of wisdom on their own brands and industries, especially on Youtube where I’ve just started sharing content properly.
Instead of comparing myself to them, I utilised their knowledge and generosity to help make improvements to my own social…and to my fitness!
On that note, having worried that I wouldn’t be fit enough, it turned out that a lot of our activities were focused around running and I was able to repay the favour and help two of them finish their first ever 10K.
I could have saved myself the pre-trip anguish if I had NOT compared myself to them. Infact, I’d save myself a lot of anguish on a regular basis if I stopped comparing myself to others around me.
Are you guilty of comparing yourself to your friends, co-workers, people on social media?
Why do we do it? It mostly just makes us unhappy, less satisfied with that we have rather than focusing on the awesome components of our own life. The grass always looks greener on the other side, in particular because through social media everyone is presenting their ‘best’ life without any of the behind the scenes struggles.
Personally, I often fall into the comparison trap when it comes to training, to running and fitness. And not only comparing myself to others, but to myself in months/years gone by. To a time when I was fitter, thinner, faster… rather than simply focusing on where I am with MY training NOW and what I want to achieve.
The fitness and weight loss industry thrives on the fact that we compare ourselves to others – to their bodies, workouts, their kit. The promise is sold that by going to that particular workout class, buying that piece of kit, eating that meal plan – we too can look like them, which in my opinion, isn’t always healthy.
Instead of looking at where you were, look how far you’ve come. Focus on the small milestones and goals you’ve achieved. Maybe you’re battling a busier work schedule, a stressful home life, some health issues? Yes, on race day we are often gunning for a PB, but sometimes it’s just the fact that we’ve shown up, kept running and crossed the finish line that is the win for the day.
Do the best you can do. If you’re giving your all, you can’t ask for anything more. If you know you’re doing your best, then F what everyone else is doing.
That’s not to say that you shouldn’t look at what other people are doing for inspiration, motivation and advice, but make sure it is positive. That you’re learning from it and it’s pushing you in the right way rather than negatively impacting your mental health or knocking your own achievements.
Remember that we’re all putting our best life on social media for people to see. Most people aren’t sharing the boring, mundane, or downright crappy parts of their day. Whatever you are going through, you’re not alone. Even if that thing is forgetting your knickers and having to be naked at your sports massage (thank you for all the messages to tell me your embarrassing sports massage stories!)
One final note… I listened to Kelly Robert’s latest podcast this morning, where she said that although comparing yourself to others is NORMAL, and the feeling of FOMO (fear of missing out) happens to the best of us, try taking yourself away from social media when you find yourself doing this in a negative way. Spend time with those you love IN REAL LIFE and appreciate the things you do have.