The 9th June, a day I’ve been thinking about for a while because it means the start of the three month countdown until our wedding day!
So many people have asked how it’s going and the answer is…fine. We could have a wedding tomorrow with all the things we’ve organised however it’s the little touches, the personal items and crafty bits that I haven’t done yet. Things cost SOO much money when it comes to weddings, it’s crazy, so there have had to be some big compromises on things and some plan changes but I think we are getting there.
Its been a weird time, with a Dad that isn’t in my life and a Mum that has been living on the other side of the world in New Zealand, my Aunt has been a godsend when it comes to wedding planning. She’s been the one who has been my sounding board, my wedmin manager, and helped me find my wedding dress – which I’m finally trying on in my size this week before the alterations begin. I’ve definitely found it tough though, and at times completely overwhelming. It is supposed to be the happiest of times, yet I have found it a time of sadness too.
Whilst I literally cannot wait to marry Tom, I haven’t enjoyed wedding planning as much as I thought I would however we are finally getting there with organisation (despite a mini panic attack yesterday over bridesmaid dresses that I’ve managed to sort today thankfully). Plus I’m not in the shape I thought/hoped I would be in this close to the wedding thanks to over stressing, over eating and under exercising during my revision period.
A week spent in a bikini in the South of France has been the kick in the butt that I’ve needed to realise that no matter what other people think, I want to look and feel better in my wedding dress and on my honeymoon. Feeling great is such a mental thing for me. In summer’s past I have been mid-marathon training when I’m on holiday, so have been running 40+ miles a week as well as strength training (ish) before slipping into a bikini, whereas this year it’s been straight after exams and after a dramatic cut in mileage after the Boston and London marathons.
From Monday I’m going to be working regularly with a PT in Henley, not only to tone my back, arms and stomach, but to work on my strength and mobility for running. Part of me is slightly tempted to sign up for a race and use that as extra motivation to train hard this Summer that’s outside of aesthetics…
Things I am loving in the lead up to the wedding is the stationary… I’m trying not to share things before my friends/family see them on the wedding day, but here’s our Save the Date, designed by my lovely friend Izzy.
I’m going to share my monthly progress as I work with David, my PT to get back to a body that is strong and fills me with confidence, as well as prepares me to run another marathon in the next 12 months, faster than ever before (I hope!). Thanks for sticking with me during the period of quietness – I’ve missed you all! xx
You can read about our engagement here and our honeymoon plans here.
I’m getting married in three weeks, and just wanted to reach out and say you are not alone in lots of the pre-wedding stress! There are so so so many expectations that both we and society have of this time in our lives, and I think it is important to acknowledge some of the hardness too. Good luck and congrats!
Aww thank you so much! Congratulations and good luck with your wedding! I know it will all be worth it in Sept but right now it can feel so much work! have a fab wedding xxxx
Good luck with the PT. G.
Gosh do i understand how you feel. I can’t wait to be married but the whole planning aspect is not all its cracked up to be. I’m 3000mi away from my family and planning just isn’t as fun without them. And the cost! We still don’t own a home and I am finding it really hard to stomach the cost (why is everything double once the word wedding is mentioned?!?). Not to mention neither of us are massive big party people- its hard to stay true to yourself while pleasing other people!
So true – although Tom and I love a party and actually the best thing is that we can legit be the first people to leave the party this time!! I hope your wedding is what you both want, after all, it is supposed to be about you two! xx
These pictures are gorgeous! I’m so excited for you guys but so crushed we can’t be there. 🙁
Us too! We’ll have to celebrate all of our summer excitements soon!
Hope the dress fitting goes well. See you soon. Xxx
Any help you can get from organising your wedding is a big plus. Lessens the stress from the planning. All the best on the big day!
Thank you! I totally agree – definitely accepting all the offers of help!
Oh congratulations Charlie, I didn’t realise you were getting married soon. It will be the best day of your life!
i feel you on the wedding stuff. mine is 12 days away. the stress stuff ebbs and flows. but it’s such a crazy/exciting time!
You are not alone. I just got married on June 3rd and I felt so horrible at the wedding planning process. I hated every minute (except finding my dress and writing my vows). In the end it all went perfectly. The little details I forgot no one else noticed either. Just breath. It will work out.
This bit really feels like the eye of the storm doesn’t it? Like… what have I forgotten that’s going to catch me out later?
I really enjoyed reading this article about a bride’s perspective on her shape for her wedding – https://www.the-pool.com/health/health/2017/20/louise-mcsharry-losing-weight-for-wedding-day – though of course every feeling is totally valid, and you should wear/do/be whatever you want on the day! I had wanted my arms really toned for my wedding dress but just never found the time to really commit to it. I thought it would bother me when I looked back at the wedding photos but I just see what I lovely day we had.
You’ll have so much fun!